If you’ve been a little more tired, flat or maybe more introverted than usual over the last couple of days – welcome to the new moon this month!
My invite would be to surrender to what your body is calling for, and REST as much as you can or choose to make time for. To acknowledge your NEEDS as something you are born here to have – not to overcome but to evolve THROUGH.
I’ve come across a repetitive theme of ACCEPTANCE this month: acceptance of all we are – likable or not, of our HUMANNESS, of all that life presents us with.
Because when we do – we accept important aspects of Reality, we unite fully with all the energy and pathways to manage our vitality for our best creativity and joy here in life.
With this in mind, going back to a new moon being a “new beginning” and a clean slate, being completely dark (with the bright sun right behind it) – this Darkness becons us to own and release/transmute our shadows. To own the shadows is to own all you love or dislike about your inner experience and you. So you are landing into Reality – both seen and unseen, having Truth on your side. So that you can stop using up precious energy to hide, pretend, project or run away from something inside you’d rather not have. The New Moon welcomes us into a Deeper Truth: the Unknown, New, Sacred and Desired – in simpler and clearer ways.
I wonder how your expereince of the New Moon has been (the latest one or in general)?
The picture you see here was taken 6 days after my beloved grandmother passed on. The insights, peace, clarity, gratitude and love moved through me with such beautiful intensity ๐- right after very deep grieving (involving forms of disbelief-denial, regret, shame, confusion, overwhelm, sadness). When we embrace that whatever life offers us is here to serve us – magical things can happen.
I’d love for all of us to move through fear, confusion and pain associated with loss.
Here are some quick Guidelines on working with Loss & Grief:
๐ญ. “Get Rid of ‘I can’t handle it!’: the biggest block in moving through emotions is the belief that they are bigger than you are. This isn’t true as you are the one holding the space for them – so you must be bigger!
๐ฎ. Lean into it: don’t run, delay or deny what you feel – the more you allow yourself to feel and even invite more in – the faster it passes through you.
๐. Remember it’s meant to finish: kick “this is endless” thoughts aside – emotions aren’t eternal, everything changes.
๐. Look for ‘goodies’: we were taught a lie about “unpleasant emotions” e.g. they hurt us & have no further use. If the Universe is kind, then what you feel has a value. Look for that value. You WILL find it.
๐. Higher Power: studies on longevity & happiness show that people who accept there is a Higher Power, deal with adversity and regain balance much faster.You don’t have to be religious or spiritual to open your mind to the Greater Intelligence of Nature, which includes cycles of life.โค๏ธ
Feel free to share below if any of the points above resonate with you the most.
If you would like to work through loss: the course on ‘Moving through Loss into Joy and Confidence’ is available online (check workshops on this website), and if you act before 26th of March 2023, you can still join some of the sessions Live in the course.
If you would like some help with moving through challenging emotions into peace, contentment and even joy 1:1 – you can book a Discovery Call to see if I can assisst you with that.
Disclaimer: By reading this and other posts on this website, you agree that this information is shared only as a personal experience shared by the author. The information shared on this website is not designed to diagnose or treat mental or physical disorders or conditions.
Whenever we intend anything, we gather, direct and send energy to organise itself into what we want.
A blessing is one of the most powerful ways to intend & manifest: e.g. we lovingly bless somebody with a positive intention to have more love, luck, health. This is why people say: “Wish me luck!”, “Wish me well!” when they need extra support.
What might be possibly new to some people is that you can bless yourselfwith the same effects as when blessing others. I practice self-blessing or loving intentional well-wishing often for self-healing, manifesting and raising my vibes and mood. If you first bless you, then whatever good you intend for others will have a stronger effect because you will be vibrating at a higher frequency (see my preffered formula for self-blessing below).
Science: to date at least 66 papers have been published on the Maharishi effect* – the observable positive effects of “loving kindness and wellness wishing” meditation on larger groups of people and environment; such as reduced violence, sickness and accidents as well as reduction of casualties in war zones. Additionally, the research done on collective prayer also proves that we each hold this incredible Power of manifesting our loving intentions.
Other benefits of consistent self-blessing:
– tap into & grow your natural positive power;
– deeper connection with your Divine Nature or Higher Self;
– manifesting what you desire;
– experience positive shifts in how you feel and in your life;
– feel more confident about what you can do in the world;
– a greater meaning and importance of your life;
– increase inner confidence
Below is an example of a Self-Blessing you can repeat once or a few times, it is best done with your eyes closed and many of my clients feel stronger effects when imagining a golden or other pleasant colour light shower them as they say the words. (You can imagine golden sparkles – a bit like a magic wond blessing.)
I bless you with Love and Light as you read these words
You can add other words to your blessing, such as: success, happiness, confidence, manifesting powers.
*References to 66 published papers discussing the positive effects of individuals and groups practicitng meditation https://anantidotetoviolence.org/transcendental-meditation/research-on-the-maharishi-effect/
In the last 3 years I have seen more families, friends and communities turn away from each other because they chose opposing points of view.
I also see a new way that’s emerging for all of us, where we can remain true to who we are and still be connected with people who don’t share our opinions.
How can we do this?
What helps is acknowledging that a conscious biological life is running through ALL of us. E.g. we all belong to one massive biologically interconnected organism called humanity, and also to all life forms on this planet through the intricate intelligent microbiology (fungi global network connects all of life). It is how it is beyond our control or individual opinions. It connects us whether we consciously accept it or not. It is deeper and more unifying than any differences we might focus on in our minds.
We can also acknowledge another perspective: beyond life expressing itself as forms, there is a deep harmonious presence that is endless and infinite – in scientific lingo we can call it the “Universal Field”, “Quantum Intelligence Field”, more commonly the Source, God, Great Spirit. Try as you may to deny this, your consciousness and all atoms in your body are a part of ONE field with everybody else! We all affect each other and at that level of consciousness, we actually cooperate with each other, because we are also one ‘consciousness organism’.
This greater spiritual awareness helps to understand that any opinion you hold about another person or event – can only be partially accurate, because there is a Bigger Picture of how it fits in within the Greater evolution and harmony of the Universe beyond a particular time and local space.
That does not mean that you will cease to form opinions: you will have a chance to form an informed perspective each day as new data widen your awareness, based on which you will hold ‘an opinion’. Your awareness will always inform your actions. You can also share your viewpoints with others so they get a chance to see the world “through your eyes” to widen their view – if they choose to. The difference is that you will no longer feel ‘attacked personally’, as your identity is not under any threat, because you yourself no longer think of yourself as a bunch of viewpoints. You now know they are a part of what you see at the time and not who you are. :)
The conflict and pain only arise if you feel so identified with a particular perspective, you feel threatened when it is time to widen it. As in it may feel to you like YOU – your whole being – is being destroyed when your opinion needs to change into a new one.
A lot of harm has been done by people to other people and the Earth from a desire to ‘keep’ one’s opinions unchanged. Ideological wars is a prime example. My ‘opinion’ ;) is that many outdated scientific theories have been kept much longer than needed – sometimes to humanity’s detriment. Think of Galileo Galilei who was under a house arrest for the last 8 years of his life because he perceived that the Earth rotated around the sun and people in power held onto an opinion that it was the other way around!
The solution is to open your mind to the fact that you cannot possibly know 100% truth, therefore at best you can just hold a temporary opinion until more information arrives and you are free to update it! By focusing on updating rather than identifying with what you perceive and currently think, you get several ‘bonus points’:
your mind stays more flexible and you are more able to form your own opinions, independent from a sense of indentity and belonging to any one opinionated group of people;
you stay more cheerful and relaxed when other people are very protective of what they believe, e.g. shout or try to enforce them – you simplyu allow them to have a temporary opinion that ‘opinions matter more than life’;
you are not forced to seek belonging through shared mental outlooks, you know you are securely connected with humanity beyond individual or collective points of view.
you feel less threat, fear or anger when your opinion doesn’t match with somebody else, you are safe as you no longer view yourself as something that can be attacked or destroyed mentally.
We can then be present and relate from a deeper truth with all beings – whatever mental stance they may take.
The same principle works if you wish to connect and feel a deeper belonging not only with humans but with the animal kingdom: when you are more curious about widening your persepctive and learning from life rather than ‘knowing it all’, you think less, your mind quietens, your brain enters into a more widely persceptive and peaceful Alpha frequency. This is where animals relax their perspective of vigilance and fear as they pick up on your peacefulness and start to hold a different ‘opinion’ about you :)
You can stop fighting to belong: you are never alone, and you are always in unity with all.
What do you do when you feel drawn to something, make your move, then suddenly some barriers pop up in your way? Do you take it as ๐ ‘๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ’ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ ๐ง ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ง๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ or do you push ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ฅ๐จ๐๐ค๐ฌ?
๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐ข๐ง๐๐๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐๐ง ๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐๐ค๐: I centre into my Inner Being, sit very quietly, tune into the ‘option in question’ & check whether it moves & uplifts me or not.
If the choice in question doesnโt lift me, & even if my mind says “it makes so much sense, let’s do it!” – I donโt go ahead.
If the choice feels elevating & exciting, yet I might notice fear or doubt – I know this is my shadow talking, so I work through the resistance, and say ‘Yes!’ to my soul’s excitement.
๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ ๐ง๐ฌ from the Universe?
You are a part of life too, so you “communicate with the Universe” through signs… AND
sometimes what โcomes upโ is not life telling you to turn back, it can be your manifested resistance to getting more from life.
e.g. some of my clients had colds & flu, devices break down, clocks stopping just before Deep Sessions with me – those were often the most Impactful sessions with massive changes for people.
Ultimately, whatever lifts your spirit, feels exciting & interesting to you is what will bring you joy, learning, satisfaction.
When we expand to receive more, fear-excitment is inevitable. However, it takes practice (or some very intense circumstance) for most people to learn the difference between โThis is a SOLID NOโ which sometimes will feel like heaviness, tightness or even terror, and when it is an old pattern that needs to shift out of fear and into love.
Life comes in through us and is experienced on the inside, so Itโs worth spending time getting to know how YOU experience your โYesโ, โNoโ and โMaybeโ
๐๐จ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ซ ‘๐๐๐ฌ’ ๐ช๐ท๐ญ ‘๐๐จ’, ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐๐ ๐ก๐ข๐ ๐ก๐๐ซ ๐ฆ๐๐๐ง๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐’๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ ๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ฌ, ๐ข๐ญ ๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฉ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ ๐ ๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ซ ๐๐ฐ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ซ๐๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก: ๐๐ง๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ ๐๐ฐ๐๐ซ๐๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ธ๐ป ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ฌ, ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฃ๐๐๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ & ๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ช๐ซ๐ธ๐พ๐ฝ ๐ฒ๐ฝ. “๐๐๐๐จ๐ง๐ง๐๐๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐๐๐ฅ๐: ๐๐๐ฆ๐๐ฆ๐๐๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ฐ๐๐ซ & ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐๐ญ” ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฉ ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐ญ๐ก ๐จ๐ ๐๐จ๐ฏ๐๐ฆ๐๐๐ซ ๐ข๐ง ๐๐จ. ๐๐ข๐๐ค๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ, will focus on deepening these abilities + more. This is a 3-point Healing and Initiation process to: ๐ซ๐-calibrate a ๐๐๐๐ฉ๐๐ซ awareness of ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐ซ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ซ ๐๐๐ฅ๐; ๐ก๐จ๐ฅ๐ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ ๐๐ข๐ ๐ก ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐๐ฌ even when faced with pressure/conflict/other people’s agenda; make ๐๐๐ฌ๐ฒ ๐๐๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ from your Greater self!
P.S. Feel like going even Deeper & making the Biggest Changes for Yourself? Feel free to book a Discovery Session to chat about my Deepest Dive one-to-one programme to date and what it can do for you HERE.
