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Shame is the lowest frequency you can experience as a human in terms of how limiting it is. It blocks you from growth, success, joy, connection, pleasure, love, self-expression, security and just about anything you may think of as ‘good’ in life.

Identifying with shame makes parts of yourself inaccessible to you and hidden from others, which means important parts of your energy system and your potential are no longer available to you.

Healing Shame is not a quick fix – it is a Journey. It has many layers to it and there are many shades or Wounds of shame that can be masquerading as something else, including things like entitlement, dominance, greed as well as more obvious versions of despair, unworthiness, self-disgust, guilt and fear.

Working through the 4 Wounds of Shame is a progressive unravelling of the GIFTS behind the Shame, each stage is an 0pportunity to embody the gifts you naturally have in the world where different types of wounding continue to exist. In a way you become immune to shame and shaming, so you are unstoppable. This is a Maturation and Mastery stage of working with what stops many people on the planet today to live the lives they desire.
The 4 Stages of Shame are progressive: this is how they deepened through human history and how shame wounding can progresses in childhood.

Week I. The wound of Dishonouring – Worthlessness, lack of a sense of Self.

This peaked for all of us collectively around 3,500 years ago, and it began around 6,500 years ago. This is where our Principle of Unity we lived by (abiding the Cosmic rhythms of Love, Harmony and Reason) was broken as our consciousness fragmented and we began dishonouring the Feminine. This is when our collective psychology changed: from being one with nature, life, cosmos, creation – to feeling separate, alone, confused, in competition with or frightened by life. This is the Wound of deep sadness, isolation and a very deep longing for WHOLENESS.
For centuries some of us practiced ‘going inward’ to reclaim and reconnect parts of ourselves into a unified self.

As our consciousness matured through this difficult time of fragmentation, we have collectively evolved to reclaiming wholeness inwardly and outwardly, bridging the gap between our masculine and feminine, our body and mind, our true wild nature and the imposed restrictions of artificial perception of safety.
We are returning to the true safety of being unified with life on Earth, with cosmic cycles of planets and stars and with the movement of our soul in the sacred womb of creation in our bodies.

This is a return to Freedom, but this time we have evolved to do it consciously. Collectively.

The emotions behind this wound are: Numbness, Loss, Longing, Envy, Worthlessness.

Week II. The Wound of Servitude – I can never win, I come last.

This had risen from the first wounding, because once we lost sight of our Unity within, we lost the sense of being unified with others. We now saw differences instead of what united us and honouring unique aspects of life.

WE now had much fear that pushed us into control: control of our own nature, attempted Control over the Earth and dominance over other beings on this planet, including our own kind.

The emotions behind this wound are: Guilt,  Feeling like one is Inherently Bad – within and/or for the world and others.

Week III. the Wound of Judgement – the Fear and Anger Cycle.

Once we’ve experienced dishonouring and domination without being able to yet dissolve and integrate these experiences, they sit as shimmering and cold wounds of dread, fear and revulsion – we desperately don’t want to ever feel this way again and we want to “fight it away” or “eliminate it by all means necessary”. So here we are in the flight and fight cycle of recycling the same wounding until we choose to open up, feel and illuminate that which we have been so unwilling to accept.

The symptoms of this wound are easy to spot: there is a tension and anxiety around starting new things, changing or identifying with the more pleasant and expansive experiences and reality. Pride, Envy and Vengeance often join fear and anger in order to successfully blame oneself or others, keeping the status quo of feeling that somebody/something is Wrong or Bad with us or in the World.

Week IV. The Wound of Separation – ‘Lack’ Mentality.

As the Spiral of wounding began with the Act of Dishonouring, the energy behind it is always a sense of separation from wholeness, innocence, love and truth. The deeply unity-based states of consciousness, where we perceive our inseparability from our Divine Essence, our Earth and the Cosmic Womb of creation that all is a part of.
This wounded state makes us feel helpless, hopeless, clueless, confused, mistaken about our true nature – it’s where our experience of rejection, neglect, loneliness, abuse etched into our energetic matrix creating a field of disturbed disharmony that interferes with the naturally wise, peaceful and loving way of living, being and expressing life.

So shame begins with fragmentation and it begets more and more fragmentation until we can someimtes feel an intense separation from all Good.

The emotions behind this wound are: Apathy, Grief, Sadness and Hopelessness.

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How shame can serve our Evolution:
The world is going trough a massive transformation to grow beyond our collective history and mental-emotional attitudes of the past. Healing Shame – or OUTGROWING IT – allows us to master unique aspects of life and mature rapidly. In turn, it opens up doors to an increase in SELF VALUE. When you see and believe in your value, you feel BIGGER across all of life, more capable, more in line with your values – which means every aspect of your personal life, and how it affects the collective, becomes MORE IMPACTFUL and POWERFUL.
Shame is an emotional-mental state that tells you: ‘You are BAD’ – as in the OPPOSITE of Good. So, when you identify with shame (I am not good enough, I have a secret impostor syndrome. I’m ‘winging it in life’. I’m always stressed whenever I do big projects. I’m ashamed of my past, my lack of: success, control, love, money, education, etc. – your  subconscious mind keeps you well away from anything that you actually consider being ‘good’.

As empathic beings, who are designed to live in collectives, we mimic and also “absorb” other people’s shameful attitudes, so if our family held secrets, had public humiliation, criminals, thieves in their lineage – we would sense this from our parents and assume this vibration without ever realising why we might feel ‘second best’ in comparison to other people. We might also keep wanting to prove very hard that we are INDEED good enough or have a pathological need to do endless good for others, never quite feeling like whatever good we do in the world will ever be enough…

You continue being affected by others’ attitudes, mentality and energy related to shame, until you reach a point where you can no longer sustain your life from this smaller identity.  This forces you to GROW, Mature and Master new aspects of life making you immune to individual and collective shame and shaming in the world. You become bigger than shame and can thrive, grow and contribute to the world with a greater impact.